To text or not to text, that is the question. Whether you like it or not, new technology such as text messaging has made its way into our everyday lives. But there is one big problem with these new technologies. People make dumb decisions that many times are irreversible, especially when dating or in a new relationship. Gone are the days when you could make a smooth recovery after saying something stupid over the phone or do something foolish in person. Now everything you say is archived in a smart phone waiting to be revisited at a later time — most likely when she’s gathered with her girlfriends. Let me give you an example of a text message that should never have navigated through cyberspace and found its way into my phone.
Now that you got a load of that little beauty, let me give you some background on this text message. I named this texter “Crazy” because she really did display to me that she was working with a short deck early in the game (which I actually kind of appreciated because I was able to see right out of the chute that she wasn’t the one for me). I met Crazy on Match.com (someone crazy on Match, I know, it’s hard to believe) and we exchanged a couple of emails before trading phone numbers with each other. Shortly after getting her number I gave her a call to break the ice and to feel out whether we had enough chemistry to meet in person. The conversation was ok, but nothing great; it was hard to tell from that one conversation if it warranted a meeting. I left having another phone conversation open, or even exchanging a few text messages if she wanted. She elected to text (the conversation you just read). I guess you can’t really call it a conversation because only Crazy did the texting.
I laid down for an afternoon nap and then checked my phone to see if there were any missed messages only to find that Crazy left me a series of texts that showed she went on a mood swinging rollercoaster all by her lonesome over a two hour span. That was enough to earn her the nickname Crazy and needless to say I never returned the texts.
Now, let’s go over the top five texting faux pas to prevent your name from getting filed as Crazy in her phone contacts:
1. Easy boy…One text at a time! Don’t be like the crazy chick we just discussed. Do NOT send more than one text at a time. Wait until you hear back from her before you send another text. Multiple texts without response shows desperation. It also demonstrates a lack of confidence by showing that you don’t think she will get back to you and that you don’t have a problem blowing up her phone for any reason, any time. No bueno.
2. No drunken texting. I know this seems innocent enough, and I’m sure it’s ok to do with your friends, but that’s it. Drunken texting can and will get sloppy and you know it. How many times have you scrolled through your texts the next morning only to find messages you had no idea you sent? Better yet, the texts you sent were so embarrassing that you had to call the victims to make an excuse or apologize? I’m willing to bet plenty of you have. Do yourself a favor and keep your phone in your pocket when you have too much to drink. Doing so could keep you looking cherry to someone you really like!
3. Don’t use texting to ask for a date or set up plans. I cannot stress this enough fellas! There is a whole group of women that I know who won’t go out with a guy if he can’t sack up and ask her to go out in person or over the phone. Texting a date request makes you A) seem like you’re putting no effort into your proposal and B) makes you look like you are not strong enough to risk intimate rejection.
4. Don’t ask to have them send you pictures of themselves. Guys, asking a woman to send you photos of herself through the phone will instantly put you in the creeper category. Believe me when I tell you if a woman would like to text you a picture of herself she will either just send it or she will ask if you want one. Don’t dig a hole by coming across as a perv even if you had innocent intentions.
5. Don’t text dirty or send risqué pictures! Seriously, don’t. Guys, let me have a second of one-on-one time right now with you. This is serious. When you are dating or are in a new relationship women do not want you to send them sexually laden texts or a snapshot of your little pal. They just don’t. Those texts end up on her Facebook wall so other people can berate you publicly with 700 of her closest friends. Save that kind of stuff for in person, after you know and like each other.
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